Should I postpone my wedding?

latest update 19/03/2020

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  • What is social distancing and how does it affect a wedding?
  • What are the next steps if I do postpone?

The situation is serious. People are being strongly advised not to socialise with others. The risk to those who are most vulnerable to the virus is too great to take chances. We recommend you give serious consideration to postponing your wedding if it’s taking place between March and June.

We have no idea how long these restrictions will be in place, nor do we know how much more strict they will become but we have to assume this isn’t the end.

What is social distancing and how does it affect a wedding?

Social distancing measures are steps you can take to reduce the social interaction between people. A wedding of any size at all will have to take into account these guidelines. It’s the socially responsible thing to do.

They are:

  1. Avoid contact with someone who is displaying symptoms of coronavirus (COVID-19). These symptoms include high temperature and/or new and continuous cough
  2. Avoid large gatherings, and gatherings in smaller public spaces such as pubs, cinemas, restaurants, theatres, bars, clubs
  3. Avoid gatherings with friends and family.

Everyone should be trying to follow these measures as much as possible. For weddings this will not only affect who can attend (parents and relatives may not be able to attend) but also the whole feel of the wedding. If you can’t hug, shake hands or stand within 2m of guests then it will become quite a sedate and sombre day. This is the very antithesis of a wedding.

Since these guidelines will be in place for some time it’s highly recommended to postpone your wedding for the safety of vulnerable members of your family and friends, and the wider community.

It’s terrible news and we really feel your distress here at Fern so we want to repeat that we will do whatever we possibly can to help support you though this.

What are the next steps if I do postpone?

Firstly, don’t panic. The wedding industry is made up of wonderful and supportive people and we know exactly how you will feel about making this decision. We’ve tried to order this list to be the most efficient way to approach the problem.

  1. If you have wedding insurance contact them and find out what support they offer you.
  2. Contact your venue and find out what dates they can offer.
  3. Contact any supplier that must be at your wedding on the day and find out their availability. If your wedding is soon give priority to florists, caterers and cake makers who will be ordering materials for your wedding that can’t be reused.
  4. Secure your alternative date with those vendors first
  5. Once you have got a new date you can then contact your second tier suppliers and work with them for your new date.